Breakups are the worst. When two people decide to go their ways, it is almost inevitable that there will be some melancholy involved, regardless of the perspective from which one observes the event. Sometimes they’re not the nicest person, sometimes they were amazing, and sometimes it could feel like neither of those things. You can be the person doing the dumping (or the person getting dumped on) and you will still feel the sting of loss.
It’s possible that the relationship wasn’t the healthiest fit for you. You want to look at it as though there has been a loss most of the time because it may have been poisonous, and they could have been a bit of a jerk, or it could have been amazing, and you’re left with unanswered questions; either way, you want to look at it.
Permit yourself to experience the grief associated with the relationship, the person you were, and your life. You need to permit yourself to grieve, let go of the pain, and create a place in your life for the beauty yet to come.
Everyone has a unique set of experiences, tastes, preferences, and ideals, which are all different. The things we want and the things we require may be significantly different from those of the person sitting next to us. Unfortunately, there are occasions when that fact can’t be ignored.
The sting of rejection or the sensation that you are not enough might be difficult to let go of if a relationship breaks down; you want to be “that” person, the one they desire.
Finding something that you enjoy doing is absolutely necessary at this point in your life; it could be getting into running or finding a hobby that allows balance and joy to be brought back into your life.
It is essential to find a comfortable balance in all aspects of your life. Hormones responsible for making us feel joyful can be released when we engage in physical activity, interact with animals, or even just glance at something that we find attractive.
Reaching out to a counselor to debrief about the relationship is another way to get old things out of your system as well as reflect on what you learned about yourself within the context of the relationship. Moving forward takes time and doing the work to heal is worth the journey.
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